Takiwatanga

A blog with words, in Danish or English ( Not to fond of Danish )

  • Introduction of... Me this page and...?

Reading time: 2 min 50 sec.

Getting out of my head, and on to – whatever really. Just out of my head.

What to write and what not to write. Think before you speak. Who are at the receiving end of the media?

I do not know the answer to this. However, I know what direction I like to travel towards, and I'm good at changing course if it needs adjusting.

My head has thoughts. Those thoughts are getting into ideas, feelings, views and whatnot. I need it out of my head and on to something in writing. I used countless years thinking about writing and blogging and who my reader will be, and and and and.

I'm not native English, but I do dislike my native language. If you have googled the title of this site, you know it refers to autism. I got my diagnosis a year ago ( Plus-minus ), at the start of the Corona shutdown. I'm from the 1980s, with 2 children, a spouse, and a cat that I'm not too fond of. Most of the time. At times, I talk to him and pet him. I love and adore my children and spouse, not sure who I cherish the most; it's a variable. At times, I like to give my children away with no return label. But I love them, I do very much. As for all parents, kids takes up space, energy and sleep. It's just that it hit autistic people differently. My spouse just has bad gasses at times. Everything else I love adores and like very much.

Being on the spectrum and having children, a wife and a full-time job and all “normal” ish NT stuff can be draining most of the time. Not can, are. If I know what I know now, before I met my lovely companion and got children, I'm not sure what now will look like. Will I still have children? Will I marry my wife? Most likely, the one with a spouse, but I know she wanted to have children, and I will not stand in the way of her getting children… So the question is just – will I then still have got children?

One thing I do know is that the cat will not have entered the house… So it's an unnecessary energy drain… But we have it, and it's a living being that we have taken to us. So that does conclude we have to take care of it till the end. The end can't be far away. The cat is 10 years or so of age, so my patience continues…

  • What is the scope of this blog?

I've been told I need a purpose for everything. I, my self have a hard time doing anything without a purpose for it. Learning for the sake of learning, or for the fun of it, is not something I often do. But writing, sharing, helping I like doing, but I can't really say why and to what purpose. I like to share what I learn about autism for adults (I enjoy sharing whatever I know.). If you lean into autism, it's all about the children. When the children hit 18 years of age or legal age, no more or really little help comes you're way. Finding information about it, how to fit the NT world, and how to help the external world learn about it is hard.

Another scope is telling my story in parts, but not from start to end.

1'st Test page. I've been here before, tryed to use this services – but for some reason or other, I've had issues posting. So now I'm trying again, after I've got a reply from Write.as support, that something have been fix'et...

So here we do :–)

Edit: 06/11-2021 1521 It works... Wuhu, So right about now, I can start posting what I've got on the channels...

EN: #English

House, Cat, 2 cars, 2 children, an exaggerated – lovely, loving, wonderful, beautiful, sweet, listening, understanding, patient, forgiving (many many written words later – compressed unnaturally) wife. – From 1982, when the world was before I came into being. – Autistic, approaching diagnosis Asperger's – I got my diagnosis (against what everyone told me. You're not autistic.), then, in 2019, when Covid-19 flared up. My comorbidity flipped a tooth extra out. – Comorbidity diagnoses: I do not have any officially, But they are there, and some are more clearly than others. — In time, when my diagnosis has found its place in my understanding of myself and autism. Then, I might look further into my comorbidity and get an official diagnosis if it's helpful to have it. – I have a full-time job, but some think I should go part-time or completely stop working. I do not fully concur with that...

DK: #Danish

  • Autisme er mest kendt for de svære tilfælde. Folk der har brug for hjælp til dagligdagen, og ikke rigtig kan stå på egne ben.
  • Autisme er også mest kendt for børn og unge, da der er meget materiale der ude der til.

Men når det kommer til voksne i Danmark, finder du ikke så meget materiale, for næsten alt handler omkring de 2 nævnte punkter her over.

Det er her denne blog kommer ind. Jeg ville skrive om mine minder, tanker, materiale jeg finder, frustrationer og andet jeg synes, jeg selv kunne bruge da jeg gik i gang med denne process.

Jeg er ikke diagnosticeret endnu. Den hurtige forklaring er, at jeg er voksen, har uddannelse, arbejde, er gift og har 2 børn. Jeg er, som alle andre, og skal bare lige tage mig sammen. Den forklaring gad jeg ikke høre på mere, efter jeg lagde mig med stress / depression for år tilbage. En psykoterpout (Desværre ikke ret vidne omkring området) og en asperger screening (hos en af danmarks mest førende inde for området), siger at jeg med god sandsynlighed, er i det autismespektret.

At få diagnosen, er ikke på tegnebrættet, da jeg jo ikke har nogle problemer, og de nævnte ting her foroven, så den regning må jeg så selv stå med... Det har jeg ikke lige råd til, så det bliver ved den uofficielle del for nu.